I always try to keep on top of the latest things that mother’s struggle with today and the one thing that is consistent is the argument between moms whether it is best to be a stay at home mom, or working mom.
The other day I read this blog post on Vitals msnbc.com and how working moms are happier and scrolled right down to the bottom to find nothing but judgement.
I am not sure why, but I am ALWAYS shocked about how passionate both parties are. The judgment is venomous, down right mean and hateful. It truly saddens me and breaks my heart when I see one mom attacking another when they have not stood in the shoes of the other.
Ever since I have had kids I have been all over the place with my feelings on this subject, have done a lot of inward soul searching and feel that I will never figure it all out and that’s the beauty of it.
We as moms get to choose what we feel is best for our families and us. If staying at home with your kids is what fulfills you most then kudos for you for figuring that out! If you know that you are the best mom you can be by working full time, kudos to you too!
All that matters in the end is that your happy and your children are healthy and happy!
While there is controversy as to weather kids are happier and healthier while being raised by a working family or stay at home family, all I have to do is look at my life experience and others around me to figure it out.
In my world and my life, I see very little difference in adults I knew as children. There are my friends that have been raised by working families and/or stay at home families. They all turned out about the same.
What I do see is that there is NO magic formula that is going to predict how your children are going to turn out.
I do believe that all children need parents that love them, that listen to them, support them for the individual that they are, and that are there for them when they need it. All moms can choose to do this regardless of their working status.
While I was reading the blog post mentioned above, my heart was racing as I read one judgmental comment after another. It was racing because I remember feeling some of those feelings. It’s embarrassing to admit that, but I did. I am grateful to say that I now see both sides of the fence and don’t feel that one side is better than the other. I feel that we are where we need to be where ever that is.
We each have a dream for our kids and we are doing the best that we know how to give them the tools that they need to fulfill those dreams.
Who are we to judge and step on another mother’s dream?