We all have things in our lives that we carry with us, you know, those things that eat at our insides. We beat our selves up over it and just can’t seem to let it go. Maybe we did something to hurt some one as a child, teenager, as an adult and maybe some one hurt us.
Carrying around this resentment and un-forgiveness causes depression, destroys relationships, substance abuse, causes a host of medical problems, and adds stress and hostility to our lives.
We seem to enjoy wallowing in our pain. We treat it like a baby; we coddle it, and feed it so that it can grow. It’s, like some precious treasure to us, when in reality it’s killing us.
Do you want to know one of the secrets of really happy people?
They learn how to forgive their selves and others. Yep, when you can forgive, wonderful things begin to happen in your life.
Make the past stop haunting you and dump all the burdens you are carrying. End the pain you are inflicting on yourself and others. There is no value in it.
Instead of living in the past and holding on to the pain, live in the here and now. Start forgiving, and if you think you can’t forgive others, then stop and watch this video. This is the perfect example of ultimate forgiveness.
If you can’t forgive on your own, get help from a therapist, pastor, coach, friend, or family member. Don’t give up, just keep searching for a way to allow your self to let it go. It will be the greatest gift you could give yourself.
This video embodies everything I have learned and experienced with forgiveness.
When you begin to forgive and look at the positive, the negative begins to slip away.
“We need to forgive ourselves. For all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done. You can’t get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened.” – Mitch Albom (Tuesdays with Morrie)