Don’t Be A Hater!

Have you ever looked at skinny people and harbored envy, or even more, ugly feelings toward them? You are not alone. They seem to have it so easy. It’s just not fair: they’re skinny and we aren’t!

Is this how you feel inside when you see a skinny person eating a cupcake and your eating a salad?

Is this how you feel inside when you see a skinny person eating a cupcake and your eating a salad?

When you are feeling that way, take a step back and try and put yourself in their shoes.

There are two possible scenarios here. Either the skinny person has a problem you are unaware of, or she is doing what you know you should be doing, but it’s hard.

First, ask yourself, is this skinny person able to eat whatever she wants and still never gain weight? Do you often see her sick? Have you ever asked her how she actually feels? Sometimes a thin person is simply frail, has dietary issues and other challenges we know nothing about.

I have a few personal friends who have trouble gaining weight. Yes you can say, “Oh poor them,” and you really should! It’s not any more healthy for them to be super skinny than it is for us to be super fat. They may have food allergies and certain foods make them lose weight or cause skin problems. They may have celiac disease or a chronic giardia infection, which is a parasite. For all you know, they are sick!

The other possibility here reveals something about those of us who have those… dark feelings. Have you ever hated someone who is skinny, exercises all the time, and they drive you nuts with their healthy eating habits? You may have to ask yourself why you feel such animosity towards that person. Really take a long look inside yourself. Are you jealous? Are you fearful because you know they are doing the work you should be doing? Do you feel hopeless because you believe you can’t live that lifestyle, and therefore will never be skinny?

Most of the time when we have bad feelings for someone it is because there is something inside of us that isn’t right.

Take a look in the mirror first before you start judging another person.

This journey of getting healthy, losing weight and getting in shape is not about anyone but YOU.

It's ok to envy someone as long as you don't stay in it.  Recognize the feelings, learn from them and move on!

It’s ok to envy someone as long as you don’t stay in it. Recognize the feelings, learn from them, and move on!

So instead of getting mad at them, look at them and learn what to do right and what not to do. We can learn from every person we meet, and every experience we have. Change that hate to thanks and gratitude. If you take the time to learn the lesson, you will be surprised how your outlook begins to change and things get easier.

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